Getting #GIRLBOSSY with Life Coach Mandy Sciacchitano
So we’re all about being a #GIRLBOSS at Spring and Fifth and most of the time that means finding your inner girlboss so you gotta be inspired and do your best to keep yourself there. We’re all about totally bad asses and being sassy, classy, and a bit smart assy. Needless to say we’ve always had a brand crush on Nasty Gal and the original girlboss, Sophia Amoruso. Being a girlboss takes some mental strength and we just want to stay inspired and stay connected to new people and new ideas. For us that obviously means being inspired by fashion and the perfect outfits that have the power to make you feel like you’re on top of the world but we’re also not just about exteriors and also about the interiors. We’re getting philosophical eh?
Sometimes you have to be, a good dosage of reflection is great and forward movement is always forward no matter what. With that being said, the importance of taking care of your mind and body is a huge key to being a girlboss which is the reason that we have asked Life Coach Mandy Sciacchitano to step in and give our Spring and Fifth girls some girl power message and tips. Mandy has made her dream of coaching come true, check her out at www.mandysciacchitano.com. We asked Mandy to let us know her thoughts on what it takes to be a girlboss and having the power to go after what you really want. We also asked her to let us know what inspired her to go after her dream of coaching and inspiring bad asses to shine and show the world what they’ve got. That advise means so much more from anyone that has experienced what they are talking about. Here is what she had to say, read on girlfriend, read on:
Until recently I was intimidated by the #GirlBoss movement. I thought that being a girlboss meant being the CEO of a multi-million dollar company or holding a powerful government seat or running an international philanthropy, all while maintaining an enviable social media presence and youthful approachability. It made me feel small and somewhat insignificant, like if I didn’t have hundreds of employees and a stylist to get me selfie-ready every day then I wasn’t rocking my girlboss power.
But a couple of weeks ago on a podcast I heard the founder of the #GirlBoss movement, Sophia Amoruso herself, define the term: Being a girlboss means being in charge of your life and living it deliberately.
Lightbulbs went off everywhere like paparazzi around a Kardashian.
Of course I am a #GirlBoss. In fact, I am a #QueenGirlBoss because there are no two words that better describe my daily life than intentional and deliberate, and as a life + health coach it is literally my business and my passion to bring the #GirlBoss (or #DudeBoss) out in everyone.
But it wasn’t always that way.
In fact, just two years ago my life was everything but intentional and deliberate. It was a lot closer to my original impression of the word: I had a high-powered career managing an international team of people and rubbing elbows with some heavy hitters. I left work at my Midtown high-rise in New York City to come home to a luxury apartment with a wall of windows showcasing the New York City skyline. I had a doorman who knew my name and a closet full of designer handbags, shoes, and clothes.
But none of that mattered because I wasn’t in a career that excited me or even made me want to achieve more. I trudged through life doing the bare minimum, counting down the days until my next vacation, and without any vision for what I wanted to achieve in life. That’s not very boss-like.
Thankfully I woke up to the fact that that wasn’t the way that I wanted to live my life. In my case a health transformation sparked my desire to change, I leaped without knowing what I was aiming for, and two years, a cross-country move, and three new businesses later I have embraced my inner girlboss and she is here to stay.
So whether you are seeking your inner girlboss or you just need to up level some of your bosslady traits, here is my best advice for getting your #GirlBoss on every day.
Acknowledge your power. Our thoughts are infinitely powerful things… so own them! Don’t belittle yourself and put yourself down all the time. What you focus on is what you attract into your life. So why always focus on what’s missing, what you don’t think you can achieve or what you don’t like about yourself? Those things are only going to keep showing up more and more for you. I am here to tell you that I know for a FACT that you can be, do, or have absolutely anything that you want in this world, but you have to start acting like you know that fact too. Train your thoughts to focus on the positive. Find the good in any situation. Be grateful for all the things in your life that are going right. Instead of doing things because you “have to”, do them because you “get to.” And I guarantee that even in the most boring situations, there is something to find joy in. Find it and focus on it. Have fun with it.
Discover what excites you and do it. When I first left my job and set out to make some changes in my life I felt so overwhelmed because I didn’t know what I wanted to do. I didn’t have a passion or a direction, all I knew was that I wanted to help people. I started doing a ton of personal development work and signed up for a lot of newsletters and “daily inspiration” tips, and one particular email stands out to me because it changed everything. The email commanded that I set the timer on my phone for 5 minutes, close my eyes, and think of something that brings me pure joy for the whole five minutes. I deleted the email. “That’s stupid,” I thought. But something inside me said, “What do you have to lose?” So I did it, and that was the day that I got clear on everything. Really digging deep and recognizing what it is that brings you true joy is what it means to discover your purpose. What does your perfect day look like? What would you be doing? Who would you be with? What would you be wearing? What is the weather like? What are all of the sights and smells and feelings that go along with it? It is your purpose in life to be joyful and bring your unique gifts into the world. Once you figure out what that is, DO NOT waste your time trying to learn everything that you can or do every training or certification in the book. Get into action. Action is the only way to make things happen. Sophia Amoruso said it perfectly in the #GirlBoss book: “Work is something we all have to do… make it something you enjoy because bored is not a #girlboss’s natural state.”
A lot. You know how when you are trying to take the perfect selfie you end up with about 50 reject pics that just won’t make the cut? Did you stop after the first dud and quit trying to get that perfect shot? Did you decide that because the first few didn’t turn out right that it just wasn’t in your genes to take a good selfie? Hell, no! You kept going until you got the perfect one and then you threw a filter on it and posted it with pride. Life is a lot like that. We are going to fail 50 times before we get it right sometimes, but those failures do not define us. We cannot beat ourselves up over them. We learn the lesson (the head tilt to the right shoulder is not my best angle!) and keep trying. The only way to fail is to quit.
Let absolutely nothing stand in your way. A big part of Sophia Amoruso’s story is how she got started. She was a #girlboss long before she coined the phrase and had a multi-million dollar empire. Homegirl didn’t graduate college. She had no professional training. She had a long history of petty theft and a job as a receptionist when she started her ebay. She certainly didn’t have a head start or a leg up on anyone else. What she had was a dream. She was motivated to get out of the situation she was in and she worked her booty off. To me being a girlboss means not taking no for an answer. It means perseverance and dedication. It means that when you have fear in the pit of your stomach and everything in your body is just screaming that it’s uncomfortable, you stand up straight, punch fear in the face and you freaking do it anyway. Because fear is the greatest indicator that you are on your right path. Fear is just that little place inside of us that wants to keep us comfortable, that wants to keep us from experiencing things outside of what we’re used to. Fear is our worst enemy because it keeps us from moving forward. So girlbosses don’t give fear the time of day. They feel it, they acknowledge it, they dismiss it, and they keep going. It is easy to look at the gap between where you are now and where you want to be and feel overwhelmed or intimidated, but I challenge you to use it as inspiration. Just remember that all you have to do is take one small step at a time. It can be a timid step, an imperfect step, a wobbly step, but just take the step. And then take another one. And if you know that the girlboss is inside of you and you want more out of life, but you just don’t know where to start, maybe some coaching would be a good fit for you. It is my passion and my pleasure as a life coach to guide you, support you, help you dig deep, and lead you to your next level.
So there you have it gorgeous Spring and Fifth girls, time to go about your girlboss ways!
The Spring and Fifth Team
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